Simple Conflict Resolution Two-Step

  An easy way to expand your conflict resolution ability is to begin using the two step discuss...

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Harmonize Gracefully

    Don't you love it when somebody readily agrees to do things your way?  Negotiatin...

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Parenting Changed My Conflict Style

  Part One in a three-part series applying insights from conflict styles to parent-child relati...

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Tutu Led by Sharing His Power

  The passing this week of Archbishop Desmond Tutu brings a flood of memories of an amazing man...

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How to Manage Your Storm Shift

  Does your behavior in conflict change sharply when you get upset?  Do you turn suddenly aggre...

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Use this tool to talk about COVID19

  With COVID19 cases rocketing once again, old questions return.    We are all inesca...

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Things fall apart. How to respond?

These are scary times, and it's not just COVID19.  Polarization is rooted now in ways not exper...

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Cooperate Gracefully

  The Cooperating Style of conflict management is about actively seeking ways for both sides to...

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Take Charge Gracefully

Sometimes you have to be pushy in conflict.  You have to say No! and really mean it, insist that peo...

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Avoid Conflict Gracefully

  Sometimes when there's a conflict, the best thing to do is say nothing and just drift away.&n...

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Conflict Resolution Trainer & Gun Lover

You know me as a peace process guy, a conflict resolution trainer, an author of peace training mater...

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Use Silence in Facilitating

What can a facilitator do with an extremely persistent person, who refuses to stop interrupting othe...

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When People Interrupt

The problem we saw in tonight's presidential debate is familiar to any mediator: How do you keep ang...

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My Neighbor Drew a Knife

I’ve trained police in conflict resolution skills on four continents.  My first love is communities ...

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We Can Avoid Mask Conflict

There are a lot of stories going around about conflicts over wearing masks.  See for example th...

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Lead Conflict Styles Training

This post is for people who want to help a team or group improve their patterns of dealing with conf...

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Healers Call Others-III

(Part III in a series from a forthcoming book, Transforming the Healer) As we accept the reality of ...

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Wounded Healer - II

Pain Pushes us to Our Own Healing Those called to work for healing and social transformation of our ...

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Transforming the Healer-I

First in a Seriesfor Exhausted Visionaries, Activists, and Healers How can we assist the healing of ...

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Worry about Hornets

On September 11, 2019, President Trump warned about what America would do if attacked again. "We wil...

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